The conflicts of adolescence adolescents
Many psychologists put emphasis on the fact that puberty is always difficult, both for the teenager and for his parents. But now there are those that do not agree with this opinion and I am sure that the nature of teenage conflict is formed much earlier. Why is this happening and how to avoid them, you will learn in this article.
It is possible that their view differs from the view of a Mature adult, but he’s already formed and it is already there. Just kids guided by emotions and own experiences, which are dictated by the senses. For example, parents ‘ divorce and the fact that one of them is going to create a new family, he could perceive as a betrayal, not understanding the subtleties and nuances, and to explain to him at this age, it can be quite difficult. Therefore, he accumulates experiences that will inevitably come to the surface when he feels «almost adult» teenager.
This is the reason that many parents say is: «was a child suddenly deteriorated». Although he was such, he just has not yet been formed awareness of himself as «almost an adult» person, so this was not seen. No wonder even Freud called the period from 7 to 12-13 years of latent, or hidden, and when there is an accumulation of experiences, which turns into conflicts with adults. The series is Freud’s Method can help you better understand the psychology of teenagers and adults, and will also help to learn how to avoid conflicts.
The period of adolescence is not at all is hard and conflict, contrary to the opinion of many psychologists. It depends on the initial understanding between the child and parents. A famous psychoanalyst called all the conflict in adolescence between parents and children – the result of hidden conflicts in the earlier period. Just a child who has not felt like an adult, is silent about what does not agree, and when it comes to this feeling, began to publish what was concealed in it yet.
To avoid this, parents do not rudely impose their will and to revel in the delusion that you and him find a common language. Remember that the child may just agree with you, having had my own opinion on many issues. So if you feel he is silent and does not level with you, be ready for conflict when they get older. In this case, they are inevitable.