When to hug and when to shake a hand
From awkward handshakes, no one is immune, neither the President nor Snoop Dogg, and such a delicate situation happen all the time. Why such a simple action is able to deliver so many difficulties? Whatever ridiculous injustice it does not look shameful but a couple of seconds a welcome gesture will leave you a very unpleasant experience. Although you yourself have probably heard how important it is to master the technique of handshakes:
- I want to pass the interview successfully? Shake right hand.
- I want to leave a good impression in a new company? Shake right hand.
- Want to become the king of the Jungle? Shake right hand.
There are thousands of charts that demonstrate the most acceptable form for the «standard handshake», but the «standard» has undergone so many transformations that it is sometimes difficult to understand what type of handshake is appropriate for a specific event or interaction. In Ancient Greece, even if you were armed to the teeth and had the most that neither is a warlike appearance, a handshake was almost one hundred percent guarantee that your plan is not to take the life of the interlocutor, because people showed their open palms to show the absence of weapons. And the Romans loved to have in the sleeve if not an ACE, hidden dagger, so it was invented and put into operation the pressure of the wrist at waist level at the meeting.
Now it is a gesture that demonstrates trust and respect for the other person in person, or when important contracts and agreements. This is one of the most powerful signals, which works in two directions, and how it is judged and we can determine the sincerity or the mood of the person.
Psychologists believe that the main criteria for evaluating handshake is:
- Strength (weak/strong);
- Temperature (cold/hot);
- Humidity (wet/dry);
- The area of adhesion (total/partial);
- Duration (short/long);
- Speed (slow/fast);
- The complexity of (light shaking/hard starska);
- Texture (rough/smooth);
- Eye contact (too long/lack thereof).
Handshake, good or bad, triggers a chemical reaction in the body, able to be deposited in the palaces of long-term memory of your brain: the surge of oxytocin makes you feel that person can be trusted, and generally cheers you up, also causing a positive emotion at the recollection of the meeting. Unfortunately, negative emotions are also remembered and have a very long shelf life, causing the Association, as if you touched a hand to a hot stove.
Perhaps if we learn the origins of some of the handshakes, we can, at least, to prevent several uncomfortable moments. Consider the five General types welcome gestures that are most popular nowadays.
1. The blow fists
At the time, this greeting was widespread among bikers and athletes, and then in a circle of close friends.
When to use:
Punches (not the face) work well during greetings fellow sports team or greetings friend, if you already have developed such a tradition. This is a valid option to meet a simple buddy, not to pick up from him a couple of harmful bacilli.
If you’re going to say Hello this way, no sudden moves and put your fist in advance, ideally with one to two meters below the man was able to navigate and understand what you want from him.
2. Hugs bro
Usually the arms are used between close friends or family members to demonstrate to each other and to others that the officialdom of the classic handshake is not able to convey the warmth that is present in the communion of these people.
When to use:
As mentioned above, this greeting is appropriate between good friends, and to greet such a way as etiquette allows in the gym and in the office. The scheme is simple: hold hands, then the other, free hand prinimaesh and Pat on the back.
There are many theories about when the world first saw the «high five». But one of the recorded points was an incident between two baseball teammates, dusty Baker and Glenn burkom, «Los Angeles Dodgers» in 1977. The heyday of «high.» occurred in the 80s and 90s, this gesture is already regarded as a banal greeting, so it should never be used for important meetings or negotiations. Although it’s obvious to any adequate person.
When to use:
Today «high.» are reserved for celebration of a job well done, done usually in a competitive environment. It is also used with a touch of self-irony, when you screwed up in full and congratulate someone or asked to congratulate ourselves on excellent crank case».
4. Kiss on the cheek
Kiss on the cheek is a common greeting between a man and a woman in many parts of Europe and Latin America, and North America. It’s usually one, two or three of alternating a kiss on both cheeks starting with the right.
When to use:
If it’s not a woman, or your father… ever!
5. Traditional handshake
Classic handshake is used both in business and in personal communication. Common uses of» understand respect for a business partner or a greeting for the parents of your boyfriend or girlfriend, shared, or new acquaintances.
When to use:
In all cases other than those stated above. It is a universal form of congratulations, which cannot be ignored in any case. Perhaps the person on the other side hands and will feel a slight discomfort in the face with your sweaty palm, but it will be better than if you handle it the first «high five», and then climb to hug.