What’s the problem with porn?

the problem with pornPorn is now everywhere. It is impossible to establish when it happened, but over the past two decades, porn went mainstream. Now porn can be found anywhere, it even shows on special channels. Everywhere there is a place for porn: in the book, and the Internet.

This transition is porn to the mainstream culture, usually seen as a healthy liberation from puritanical sexual tradition of the older generations. It is strange that society has overcome the shyness, and the pendulum has swung in the other direction — in the direction of pornographic culture. Unfortunately, porn has on men and women detrimental effect which often goes unnoticed. Many men are of the opinion that the proliferation of porn is a healthy trend. The only benefit you get from porn? When I look at us today, I without hesitation can say that it is ruining masculinity. Although he continued to watch.

From one extreme to another

Pornography is a controversial issue on which people can easily take diametrically opposed positions. Often the religious people in accordance with their beliefs they say that porn filth that turns good men into perverts and dirty sex. However, I have met believers that are dependent on porn. This approach is unlikely to help men to rationally discuss this topic. Moreover, it turns porn into the coveted forbidden fruit, turns the consumption of porn in an underground fetish, and prevents men to be honest and ask for help.

The other extreme is to look at porn as a healthy aspect of sexuality. Pornography is heartily encouraged in order to help people discover what they like in sex, no matter how expressive or violent movie. People in this camp argue that while in porn are adults and don’t hurt anyone, it’s okay. However, this approach does not recognize that porn has a negative impact on man, on woman, on society.

No extremes will not help here. Today we have an honest, rational, discussion about porn and its effect on men. I lay my cards on the table. I don’t think porn is so good. Many of he bad.

Porn can ruin your life

Some people claim that porn is addictive like drugs. I personally do not like to label. Very easy to hide behind this cause and help yourself. When I think of addiction, seem to me people who suffer from withdrawal from withdrawal syndrome when they try to quit the habit. I have never seen someone cordially shook hands and congratulated with the fact that he’s a week or two not watching porn.

However, there is no doubt that porn look rather compulsive — like compulsive overeating. In your brain there are problems with the satisfaction of a reaction, which are difficult to break. I’m not exaggerating when I say that porn can ruin lives. You know examples when people have broken up because the guy had an overwhelming passion for porn. I know people who have had a long relationship and broke up because of this. These stories enough, and they are real. The person who rises by night out of bed and leaving his wife alone to watch porn — is this normal? The man who in secret from a friend carries on the car a few night — is this normal? A man who watches porn secretly at work — is this normal? And I could still continue.

I won’t deny that some men can consume porn and not suffer the consequences. It’s like men who from time to time drink, but while not becoming alcoholics. Even if you are one of those who looks at porn without getting dependent on him, I still think there are reasons to avoid adult films. In any case, they don’t make you better. And yet, for several reasons.

How porn can hurt you

1. Porn turns women into an object

A real man meets a woman, because it takes all of it as it is. He respects her and her individuality. He sees her as an equal, he thinks she’s worthy of respect. It’s a lot of work, efforts must be made to interact with women, but the man is ready.

Porn turns women into an object. It turns women into things that exist only to satisfy men’s needs. Porn denies any need for emotional and intellectual connection with a woman.

If you want to understand how people working in this industry treat women, here’s the words of a former pornographic film actor bill Margold. He says: «the Only reason to work in this business is to satisfy the desires of men worldwide who are mostly not particularly care about women and want to see how porn men have sex with women they cannot obtain». A writer of porn (wow, there is still a scenario!) said porn creates the illusion that «women are in their place and not aspire to power».

Want to watch porn to feel like a man? So you have a problem. Real men don’t treat friends like objects, in order to feel good.

2. It supports a filthy industry

Almost no one from those I know, have not used the services of prostitutes. The idea is to give money to a stranger woman for sex seems preposterous. But porn is essentially prostitution, just of a slightly different kind. No matter what sauce you give yourself and how rationalities — you still pay a woman for sex. It’s even uglier: you pay money to watch other people have sex with each other. No dude wants his sister was a porn star, then why is it considered normal that someone else’s sister does porn? The more porn consumed, the more porn is. Even if you’re sitting in his room in a communal apartment on the outskirts of the Universe, you’re still helping the industry to grow.

3. You’ll wait for sex is quite another

Through porn, we begin to build unrealistic expectations from sex. Otherwise we begin to imagine that men love sex. In porn women are always sexy and ready for anything, they have a great shape. Best of all, women do not speak. Men don’t need to worry about having to interact with women they see in magazines and adult films. Men just get from them and forget about them.

In reality women don’t want to have sex every minute, not all women have curvy bust and women love to talk. Some even very talkative.

Fans of porn for this reason have difficulties with these relationships: girls, who they meet in real life, a little like the girls from magazines and websites. When a man makes love relationships, sociologists say that they are looking at your friend because of «pornographic filter». He continues to fantasize about scenes from porn while having sex, because the love of a woman is not enough to satisfy him.

Person who watches a lot of porn, make a woman do what she doesn’t particularly like it, recreating exotic scenes from the movies. He thinks that all women don’t mind. Women complain that men often have sex to them on the face, even when they have sex for the first time, because men feel like it’s sexy. Sad story.

If you want a good sex life, avoid porn.

4. Through porn, you get less pleasure from sex

The company believes that, more than anything, is the key to happiness. Not true. The key to happiness is moderation. The pleasure receptors in the brain — sensitive mechanism. When you first try something new: travel, food, porn is easily activates the pleasure centers in your brain. However, after the repetition of pleasure is reduced. So people often eat more, more sex, watch more porn, to regain the pleasure of the first experiments. But this only produces a vicious circle in which you’re looking for more intense stimulation that the pleasure had reached the desired level. Finally, you stun and overload their pleasure centers. Studies have shown that when you watch porn, you get used to its clarity: you look, and you are captured. And when the circle ends?

Society sells us the idea that the more sexual objects present in your life, the happier you are. This is not so. Orgasm is one of the strongest emotions. If you associate orgasm with your wife, with kisses, feelings, body, your wife will excite you. If you associate it with external images that move on the screen they will initiate you. And the wife will not.

5. Porn robs you of confidence

Porn robs you of confidence. Men usually include porn when they’re depressed or when they feel lonely. Instead of trying to get out of this state and to meet with a girl, many men choose the easy path and watch porn. When this moment passes, men feel even more lonely because they can’t achieve intimacy with a movie or magazine.

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