To apologize? Only human beings and for the cause
In a relationship and not just most men don’t want to admit that they are categorically wrong. We are confident that we are right even when we suspect that it is not so. Mistakes are what, by a strange coincidence, can’t afford a good half of the population. Some stupid people believe that if they admit they were wrong, their penis will instantly wither.
In the world there are many people who are very rarely say «excuse me», and there are those who never in his adult life uttered those words. I don’t know why we have still found this absolutely dirty stereotype that the man would never apologize, especially in front of woman, because he always rights a priori. There are no people who are always right, it’s childish. In childhood, these children fell on the floor and was in hysterics when they did not buy the truck, and now they say, «I’m a man, I’m right and don’t have to apologize».
Really a benevolent man should apologize. Every person, regardless of gender, age, and other aspects, do not lose anything if I say a few simple words. Only sincere. And we will teach you when and how it can be done.
Why need to apologize?
If you should apologize, if stuck in traffic, when I drove for my friend? If you should apologize, if public transportation were slow, when she was waiting for you?
Yeah, it does, but not humiliating, just to show that you really are sorry and it will cheer her up. If you apologize just for the sake of she stopped screaming and in order to smooth out sharp corners, well hell dude, I’m serious.
But if you have an important date (wedding anniversary, birthday or New year), and you forgot to make reservations at your favorite place, and now you have to celebrate the holiday in the food court of the shopping centre, surrounded by the crowd, sticky floor and garbage, eating wings from KFC, you certainly should feel guilty. This situation requires an apology, unlike the previous one, because you yourself are to blame for the tragedy. According to this principle and should apologize.
Does she deserve this?
I would venture to suggest that 65% of small quarrels in a relationship is because the bro did not apologize, when the woman waiting for them. Although I have no scientific research to support this opinion, I am sure that many will agree with me.
Even if you don’t understand what is to blame and why your friend is mad, at least try.
Here are the most common causes of quarrels, in which it would have cost to apologize. I even for this list interviewed several ladies.
- Late for a date (sometimes the theme with the tubes not working);
- didn’t call her back;
- flirted with other women (not just smiling, but a full Lisp with a canopy);
- was rude to her friends or family members;
- wasn’t giving her enough attention, strongly overshadowing;
- didn’t pay attention to her demands about sex;
- rude to other people in her presence;
- saying that she’s fat (even if it is).
From myself I will notice that girls not right. Rather, they did not realize that there are some cases (got stuck in traffic, for example; a man is rude to your face; at work needs a lot of work). But if the allegations are justified and you have sinned, here’s a few tips on how to apologize.
I’m sorry, sweetheart
1. No need to be deceptive!
If you don’t like the idea that she portrays a violent orgasm in bed, don’t have to be violent. In addition, in most cases, a lie is extremely easy to identify.
Method when you say you’re «very sorry» to preserve peace and to plug your passion, working for a short time. In the future, «I’m sorry» will be the equivalent of «shut up, please, and go to the kitchen».
2. Tell her that you really need a way
Imagine what would happen if your girlfriend comes to your house, I would say that she wrecked your car, and ask for the money for a manicure. Oh, and she adds that she’s sorry that she broke your car. I agree that it sounds disingenuous.
So put down the TV remote or getting up from the computer. Look her in the eye, apologize, and get ready for a long discussion.
If you’re sure that she doesn’t deserve forgiveness, and tell her. She could apologize herself.
3. Don’t make this a habit
In relationships often comes routine. Common. But no need to bring her ugly appearance. For some men casually tossed «I’m sorry» (even the eyes from the monitor not obscured!) serves as heavy artillery, likely to plug the lady. If all she hears an apology from you, she gets used to them, they lose their sincerity, and lose their sharpness. It will be assumed that the apology is an apology, different from what you usually do. She’s expecting flowers and gifts or something unusual.
4. Find time to calm down
In the middle of an argument or difficult conversation can sometimes be a moment when the two finally get tired from each other and diverge at different angles. Calm down, take a deep breath and continue your discussion. Now you can finally apologize.
5. Be direct
Tell me what you think. Do not say beautiful words, don’t be trivial, don’t tell me you once saw in some magazine. Tell me exactly what you think. «I’m really sorry so and so, it won’t happen again». That’s all. Straightness, preferably less words.
6. Don’t go to sleep fighting
Make sure that the problem is solved, resentment exhausted and don’t walk away from problems in the wonderful world of dreams. This approach is used by many people as the most stupid way of avoiding quarrels. Morning you’ll still be fighting to sniff each other from different ends of the apartment. Be sure that you understand why she’s angry, and try to make things right, to see the situation resolved. Actually there is nothing wrong to apologize, even if it’s not your fault.