The art of domination and submission: what you don’t know about BDSM

You probably heard a lot about the phenomenon of BDSM, and, most likely, acquired his adamant opinions on the four letters that shake the mind and excite the imagination. We already know what associations you had at the mention of this abbreviation, but before the verdict our level of promiscuity, let’s deal with the fact that you may not know about BDSM, and some stories are better not to believe. We visited the current workshop on the art of BDSM and talked with an expert who told us about the stereotypes that exist in society, safety, paraphernalia and, of course, a miracle of sensual and profound culture of domination and subordination.

1. BDSM is not a perversion

As a rule, people who know about BDSM enough excuse, you can assume that this process is something abnormal, associated with pain, humiliation and other perversions. But all that is justified by the stereotype is ignorance.

If you do not go into the details, that BDSM is a subculture, which is based on mutual exchange of power with the purpose of achieving sexual satisfaction of both partners. Due to the fact that during sex between partners violated the usual socio-psychological conditions, collapsing bans, but the process is in the form of role play, BDSM participants can reach a specific level of excitation and, respectively, to obtain satisfaction, not always available to those who prefer the classic sexual intercourse.

Despite the fact that many consider a kind of BDSM rough sex, such as sexual intercourse with penetration may not take place, as all the erotic intentions of partners focused on the game and more subtle and complex physical and psychological influences than traditional sex, no matter how diverse it may be. In other words, BDSM is an art to give pleasure and enjoy watching and participating in the process of erotic experiences each other. As you know, the pain and humiliation is too loud, although there are practices which can not do without them, but, as a rule, such aerobatics in order to learn how to hurt you without consequences, you will have to spend in a given culture.

2. BDSM did not come to us from the Satanists

Since BDSM is a complex set of techniques and practices, to say exactly where its roots game of master and slave, is difficult. The representatives of the BDSM community say that have borrowed some of the tricks of their culture geisha who knew how to treat their lovers, to exercise authority, and even to hurt, only one force of the vaginal muscles. In the modern world, by the way, this type of domination is still practiced and not only fans of BDSM, but very zealous in his sexual development girls.

Modern fans of BDSM pay great attention to the technique of shibari — an erotic binding partner (usually the partner) who came from Japan. This process is considered to be a act of art, as correct and aesthetically to wield a rope, not everyone can. BDSM enthusiasts are learning the technique and practicing shibari bondage as a way to immobilize a partner, and as the process of receiving and delivering pleasure. Just imagine that your friend’s ability to move and breathe depends entirely on you, your actions and skill. The rope slowly sliding over the body, the knots tighten on the limb to get myself out. At this point, the dominant (in modern culture — «top») assumes responsibility for the safety of the partner and the liabilities side («lower») who completely trust their body.

As you can see, Sade is resting quietly in company with Sacher-Mathom as voluntary providing your body the power the other person has romantic overtones.

3. BDSM is not a latex

If the word BDSM can you imagine suspicious people in latex, we hasten to dispel this myth, as the latex for Amateurs. Mainly real professionals in the art of BDSM does not recognize the latex, because it is not breathing, the skin, the partners begin to sweat intensely, and then to itch, and motion data, as you know, spoil the whole holiday, because now the partners are forced to pay attention to what’s going on under the latex, instead of enjoying all that is happening around. For the true BDSM enthusiast suit has not so much importance as one might think. If you know what to do with the body of the partner, the decorative elements only spur your enthusiasm and create an atmosphere, not more.

Besides, in the modern culture of BDSM, you can find a large number of aesthetic and erotic clothing that highlights the beauty of the human body, gives you as many opportunities as possible to touch and delight. After all, BDSM is not just a series of sentences. Here everything works according to the method of carrot and stick — Yes, you understood correctly. After each punishment, it is promotion, which is expressed in caresses, stimulation of the genitals and other actions, capable to bring to climax.

4. BDSM is not a bunch of paraphernalia

Of course, the BDSM culture didn’t stand still all the time, what did you think of it as sex with a lot of difficult stuff to use, and today these professionals is, where carousing. A large number of lashes of different lengths and textures; from the innocent and cuffs in soft leather, with spikes and studded masks, collars and different ropes for shibari; gags, clamps and shackles, not to mention the more subtle items like a swing set for fixation of the partner in the space and create the effect of weightlessness.

Despite the fact that all these attributes are the place to be to try yourself in the art of BDSM, you don’t have to equip a special room to be able to fit all your enthusiasm. To fulfill your secret fantasies, enough of the set of basic elements (rope, whip, handcuffs). And only after both partners will feel the basic idea of role-playing and learn to listen to your own body, you can begin to experiment and develop.

It’s not even the fact that BDSM is not an important attribute, but rather that it should be able to use in order not to harm their «bottom» in a fit of passion.

5. BDSM is not a mindless infliction of pain

Still on the subject of attributes, is to say that despite the fact that BDSM is not a sadistic perversion, a health hazard still exists. That is why each participant should understand the responsibility and have the appropriate knowledge on how the mechanisms of domination and subordination. In modern BDSM culture pay great attention to safety and planning scenarios for further action. Each partner decides which actions are acceptable and which are not when the partner is required to stop, and how active you need to be one or the other game.

For those who only wants to try himself in BDSM-art, experts recommend to go through specialized training, which explain in detail how to work with attributes, how to choose it in accordance with the body size of the partners, as well as how to better organize a role-playing game for the first time. The more experience, the more experiments. In addition to professional deeper into the world of BDSM, the partners may consider the use of elements of bondage and domination in his classic intercourse. In this case, it will be enough just to talk about all the details of the future process and to trust each other.

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