How to stop planning and start living
Think about how much time you take planning. Maybe you write down ambitious plans for the summer or planning what you’ll eat for Breakfast. But what you planned is really worth the effort, and that it was unhesitatingly relegated to improvisation?
Of course, some things need to be planned. Planning allows you to introduce an element of organization in the chaos of life. The problem is that too much practice in planning and worry excessively when their plans are thwarted, thereby consuming precious time and energy necessary for life here and now.
How to make excessive desire for orderliness does not hurt you to live?
1. Mark planning reasons
You’ve probably become adept control overnight. The habit of planning takes years and, according to psychologists, is rooted in the natural human need for security. However, if your pursuit of security threatens to escalate into obsessive neurosis, it’s time to stop, breathe and ask yourself: why do I want to plan this? what happens if I fail to plan?
In fact, it might be worth the time to go to the store, without writing the list of products? Rather, the world will not collapse from such a rebellion.
2. Learn to think differently
If you pre-replenishes your day, it will be successful. Or not. We all know how easy sometimes the best plans crumble. Don’t let yourself dramatize. If you don’t have time to jot down a to-do list, this does not mean that you can never get out of bed today, because it still does not work. Out and how. Try to work without a plan, and that can happen.
3. Understand and accept change
About the world with certainty we can say only that everything changes. The universe is so constituted. A certain level of entropy is necessary in order to function properly. None of your forces will not suffice to counter it.
There are things that just happen and you can not affect them. You accept that, and life will become much easier.
4. Learn to relax
Spasmodic attempts to control everything cause a lot of stress not only on intellectual but also on a physical level. Learn to pay attention to the state of your body, associated with feelings about the planning.
Try to relax head and body — there are several physical exercises for relaxation, provide comfort to discharge tension accumulated in the body. «Loosing» thus the body, you will be able to more effectively deal with an obsessive desire to control every detail.