How to be a leader in any conversation
Oratory is not the most simple task in the modern world. To be able to speak clearly, confidently and earnestly desired not only the natural inclinations, but also painfully long practice, and it is not at all. Many people earn by his word. For example, politicians or stand-up comedians (the difference is small). However, the common man does not have knowledge of the intricacies, he will not have to read the Greek philosophers, to learn how to speak well. Simply follow a few rules that will help you set the pace, mood and tone of the conversation, which will help to manage it and that means to be a leader.
1. Do not overdo it
Know how to make your speech fake, plastic and cheap? For this you need to reward your companion wild of superlatives. Let’s say you want to sell your used car and say, «This is the best option on the market. Excellent quality and low price — a perfect option, buy!» Immediately it is clear that you are forced to take some slag, because there is no honesty. When you insert these words into the conversation, then you begin to perceive as a clown, who does not see that laughing at him, or as someone who is hiding something from the other, for example a defect motor. If you want to talk like a leader, then use the superlative only, and rarely, the word was power.
2. Don’t look for approval
Teenagers, even under the influence of an explosion of hormones, not too confident. They always blunt when it applies to those about whom they know little. It is logical that they often have to ask questions to elders, to clarify the situation. Even when they make allegations, then end it with a question to confirm their position. For example: «the Earth revolves around the Sun, right?» Offer spoil this very question suggests that the speaker is not confident in their arguments and it needs the approval of the listener. This is a common error that is replicated in adults. Like it to be? Just stop in conversation to seek approval of the listener. Instead, say it in the affirmative, as if you really know what you’re talking about and not just guess.
3. Do not sit on two chairs
There is one disgusting habit that has adopted all the politicians, economists and messengers of peace. These people do not know how to deliver good news. If they say something good, then soon wait for something bad: «congratulations, you got promoted, but your company went bankrupt, so you are without a job.» But if you want to attract more conditions in their favor, then you should avoid tactics «I brought you two news: one good, the other bad.» If you have employees, you know — they don’t want to think that everything you say has its pros and cons. People will think that the glass is always half empty, and that you don’t need — this parasite develops in the name of «pessimism in the workplace». It is better to focus on the achievements, advantages, and negative use of such quality that it could be perceived as minor obstacles in the way of improvement. If you formulate problems in this way, people are more likely to become loyal to you.
4. Don’t use professional jargon
It would seem that a simple rule, but people persist in speaking words which only understand a small group of listeners. Hope you’re not one of those guys who believe that the presence of such words makes them more professional and strong. If you are a businessman or an Executive subordinate to a lot of people, before you use technical jargon, make sure you use all your students, not just some of them. Even worse, when you use professional abbreviations in the circle of his friends, acquaintances or family. The leader should not force to feel someone deprived or incompetent. So, say easier, not harder.
5. Learn to listen
Communication can not stay on the dictatorship of one man, unless he is a President of some banana Republic. But in all other cases, people like to feel not just a product of that pour information, they like to feel the involvement in the case. Therefore, every listener should receive feedback that can be expressed in their questions, clarifications, or simple exchange of views. But don’t forget that the conversation should not turn into a farce, where every proposition is equivalent to yours. The leader sets the order in which he voiced the problems and takes the theme, while others just react. If you switched places with the crowd, the leader was someone else, but definitely not you.